Posts Tagged ‘fear’

Fearless Mothering?

Sunday, May 9th, 2010

My friend Cindy often creates a drawing in response to a word suggested each week on a website called Illustration Friday. The word for this week is “fearless.” Here is Cindy’s drawing and the words she wrote to accompany it on her blog Mostly Markers:

I was wondering what to draw for “fearless,” this week’s Illustration Friday word. Then the church service this morning reminded me of this Bible verse, one of my favorites. “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.” Today is Mother’s Day, so the words connected for me with the thought of a mother’s love.


Much of the time I have to confess to being a fearful parent rather than a fearless one. But Cindy’s drawing and the quote above from 1John 4:18 (NRSV) remind me of my hunger for the “perfect love which casts out fear.” As a mother, perfect love and fearlessness seem like impossible challenges. My love for my children feels conditional and flawed; my mind and heart are full of worry and concern for their safety and their future. But with God’s help I get glimmers of perfect love and fearlessness. In tiny increments—maybe 10 seconds at a time—I surrender my self and my children to God’s love and into God’s care. In those few moments I am deliriously fearless and free.

Sybil MacBeth ©2010

Coat of Many Fears

Friday, February 26th, 2010

I’m taking a course through the Memphis School of Servant Leadership called Fear, Courage and Christian Discipleship. The textbook is Following Jesus in A Culture of Fear by Scott Bader-Saye. During the first chapter alone, my head got tired from so many up-and-down nods in affirmation of his ideas. One of  Bader-Saye’s examples of cultural fear is that we have opted for “safe parenting” rather than “good parenting.” I am guilty of this tendency. But not only was/am I a fearful parent, but fear is a permanent part of my wardrobe in all aspects of my life.

Instead of wearing a Joseph-like “coat of many colors”, I  wear a “coat of many fears.” I mustered up enough courage  to draw my coat. Here’s what it looks like.

In the midst of this drawing exercise I was appalled by all those patches of fear. But I also noticed something. There are things I used to fear, but no longer fear. I’m making progress. The patches next to the coat are now badges of courage. Maybe one day I’ll have enough of those badges to make a whole colorful coat of courage–or at least a short jacket.

I’m not a proponent of being fearless. Fear is sometimes an attention getter, a protection against foolish behavior, and a life-saver. But I want fear in its proper place, under submission to the God described in 2 Timothy: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” KJV

Sybil MacBeth ©2010